How do I get over the anger of my parents ruining a lot of my life for being extremely controlling growing up?
You get over your anger by seeing a bigger picture: You chose your parents before you came to earth. You made a pact with them. Your parents were exactly how they needed to be to build the foundation for what you came here to experience.
See, everyone (consciously or not) is on a path to finding their real Self. Every experience serves that one purpose and pushes us toward that goal.
Unless you can see that in a bigger picture….every experience is a blessing, you will continue to suffer.
God loves you, but do you truly know that? God takes up all space, but as long as we believe in a separation from God we will continue to experience duality ( good and bad).